Matthew Lesson 9 Day 3

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Matthew Lesson 9 Day 3

Matthew 8:18-22

The cost of discipleship

7) Jesus concerning the demands of true discipleship

Challenge — The Gentiles, or non-Jewish people groups and nations—See Malachi 1:11

Marriage supper of the Lamb—Revelation 19:6–9

Then I heard what seemed to be the voice of a great multitude, like the roar of many waters and like the sound of mighty peals of thunder, crying out,

For the Lord our God
the Almighty reigns.
Let us rejoice and exult
and give him the glory,
for the marriage of the Lamb has come,
and his Bride has made herself ready;
it was granted her to clothe herself
with fine linen, bright and pure”—

for the fine linen is the righteous deeds of the saints.
And the angel said to me, “Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.” And he said to me, “These are the true words of God.”

 I assure you, most solemnly I tell you, the person whose ears are open to My words [who listens to My message] and believes and trusts in and clings to and relies on Him Who sent Me has (possesses now) eternal life. And he does not come into judgment [does not incur sentence of judgment, will not come under condemnation], but he has already passed over out of death into life.” John 5:24 AMP

Most Jews, Muslims, Mormons, Jehovah’s Witnesses, and others acknowledge that Jesus was a good man or a prophet. However, they stop short of believing that Jesus was God’s son who provided atonement for our sin and healing for disease, rising to conquer sin’s death penalty.

Anyone who does not accept Jesus’ sacrifice for our justification will not be a part of the marriage feast. Those who do not honor Jesus equally with the Father, do not truly honor the Father.

8) The demands of true discipleship

The scribe

The scribe, an expert in Moses’ teachings8 and a temple insider, said to Jesus, “Teacher, I’ll follow you wherever you go.”

Perhaps caught up in the euphoria of amazing miracles and adoring crowds of followers, the scribe thought,

“Well, now, I am a scribe. If I join that company, I shall be a leader. I perceive that they are only fishermen, the bulk of them; and if I come in amongst them, I shall be a great acquisition to that little band. I shall no doubt be the secretary.’ Perhaps he may have thought that there was something to be made out of such a position; there was one who thought so.” (Spurgeon)1

Jesus didn’t say “no.” He answered, “Foxes have holes, and birds have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to sleep.”

Since Jesus knew his thoughts, He knew exactly how to answer the scribe.

Jesus wasn’t destitute but He didn’t paint a glamourous picture for this man. Peter, Mary and others offered a place for Jesus and others to stay when it was convenient, but His disciples could expect few creature comforts. He and His followers lived by faith and went wherever the Father sent them.

b) What it would cost the second disciple.

“Lord, let me go bury my father first.”

Jesus said, “Follow me, and let the dead bury their own dead.”

Jesus refers to the spiritually dead burying the physically dead. The Amplified Bible further interprets “bury my father” as “await the death of my father.” So, it seems his father wasn’t already dead. He wasn’t going home to dig a grave but to “remain in his father’s house and care for him until the father died. This was obviously an indefinite period, which could drag on and on.”1

While honoring his father appears admirable, the delay in following Christ showed he was torn between his earthly obligation and his spiritual commitment. Or his motivation may have been receiving an earthly inheritance.

Jesus knew His time of ministry on earth was short, and that He needed followers willing to drop everything and commit fully.

Following the excitement generated by the sermon, the crowds, and the miracles, Jesus knew some were simply stirred up temporarily. Their own words conveyed what was truly in their hearts.

(That still doesn’t explain why He didn’t reject Judas.)

Luke includes a third rejected disciple who wanted to first go home and say goodbye. This gives added emphasis to the importance of following Jesus immediately and without reservation.

Trust (without reservation) and obey (without delay).

9a) Following Jesus made easy?

Jesus paid it all.

  Surely he has borne our griefs
    and carried our sorrows;
yet we esteemed him stricken,
    smitten by God, and afflicted. Isaiah 53:4 8

These examples show some common reasons for a lack of commitment.

  • I’ll go if it will help me build my ministry career.
  • The timing has to be right. I have to think about my other commitments and how well it will pay.
  • Unwilling to obey immediately and perhaps lose touch with family and friends.

b) 2013 response

I’m convicted of the times I have felt like I heard the Lord direct me to do something, and I didn’t immediately obey. Instead, I contemplated other conflicting obligations, what others might think, how obedience would fit into my own plans, etc.

How foolish.

Then there were times I plunged right in only to create what seemed like a big mess. At least I only appeared foolish. Who knows?

2021 update:

Less hesitation, more obedience. Still a work in progress.


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